Same-sex attraction 

While I must put up the disclaimer that I am not a psychotherapist, if anyone needs help in this area please contact me. Anyone is welcome to send me an Email anytime if they need help with anything, but I especially want to open the invitation to anyone who is dealing with this particular issue either in their lives or in the lives of a friend or loved one. Above all, please pray for your friend or loved one.

For those of you who are serious about wanting to witness to people who are dealing with same-sex attractions, I highly recommend the DVD Homosexuality 101, and the DVD Truth and Tolerance. Far too often I see Christians making devastating mistakes when they talk with someone dealing with same-sex attractions. I often see people use the line "Homosexuality is a sin", however they fail to distinguish between being tempted to sin, and actually committing a sin. Also, I want to be very clear that no one chooses to have these temptations, so the line that "Homosexuality is a Choice" will completely discredit the Gospel in the mind of someone who is having same-sex attractions. The saying "we choose our actions, but we do not choose our attractions" summarizes the problem with saying that "Homosexuality is a sin".

Also see the page on purity, here is a part of it:

"But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh."

-Galatians 5:16

Focus on being in the presence of God, not on "not sinning". Focusing on not sinning and breeding anxiety about "not sinning" just creates the sin of worry, and will make you exhausted. Make provisions so that you can keep yourself pure, but focus mainly on Jesus Christ, and in walking in scripture, prayer, and fellowship with serious believers, and sin will have no room to creep in.



This is a playlist that at the moment has the complete video Homosexuality 101


A New American Christian Male Identity - Must Read!


How I Discovered True Masculinity


Update on The 4Ts - Until recently I had a link, and videos on my YouTube channel promoting The 4Ts. This is a blog that I am withdrawing my endorsement for. While I agree with much of Richard's approach to how the Church should approach showing love to those who struggle with homosexual attraction, I cannot endorse him in good conscience. The reason being is that he is promoting Rob Bell, and telling people that the Bible is not the Word of God. While I have tried to show him the flaws in his theology, he has been unwilling to listen, and from what I've seen, he gets angry at anyone who shows him Bible verses contradicting his view of the Bible.

I really wish the best for Richard, but I cannot in good conscience promote someone who is advocating false doctrine and false teachers.

What I can say is that for men struggling with homosexuality, the things that bring the most healing can be very counterintuitive. A man struggling with this issue is usually someone starving for male affection. Hugs, pats on the back, and other forms of affection are important parts of the road to recovery.

I will also say that I agree with Richard's approach to locker room situations. Military men and men on sports teams commonly have no problem being naked in a locker room. Historically men have had no issue being naked around one another. Before the 1970's it was common for boys in high school to swim naked together in gym class. Unfortunately this all changed with the "gay" movement that took on in the 1970's.

After that time, male same-sex nudity, which was once regarded as no big deal, gradually became taboo. Millenial men will now tend to do the "towel dance" in the locker room.

But for men who have been on sports teams, or who are in the military, spending time with you in locker rooms, saunas, Korean spas, etc. and being able to see you being comfortable with your male body in a nonsexual, nonthreatening environment, can really do a lot for men struggling with homosexuality.

The painful reality for men in the Church, is that it is rare for any of us (whether we struggle with homosexual attraction or not) to see male bodies outside of a pornographic or hypersexualized context.

Whether we struggle with homosexuality or not, this lack of comfort with our bodies has definitely contributed to created complexes for men, including eating disorders, and a fear of healthy connection with other men.

So the bottom line is that while I cannot endorse Richard's blog, I really appreciate a lot of what he's said, and I will try to find other ministries and blogs that I can endorse on GreenSlugg in the near future. 

For now, I recommend reading what Kevin Frye has said about this topic. I do not know a lot about his theology, however, he seems like a Godly man who is searching for God's Truth.

Whether we struggle with same-sex attraction or not, I think that men really need to hear what he has to say, especially men in America.


Wretched talks about intolerance, gay marriage, and the media.